This is the next post in our series on changing child custody in Orange County, California. Our last article discussed attending trial in a custody modification case. It is important that you retain an attorney familiar with the trial process, and the rules of evidence, or else you may possibly be unable to present crucial information to the Court. In this article we will address the importance of co-parenting after your case is completed. This is an important topic as failing to constructively co-parent may result in your quickly going back to court.
One side is going to be upset after a trial regarding the changing of child custody. This is because, at the end of the day, only one parent can get what they want. It is understandable that the level of tension between the parents will be high once the process has been completed. It is important to understand, however, that conflict between parents is not in the best interests of a child. Such conflict can cause a child to feel tension, to underperform in school, and to have behavioral problems as time goes on. If these types of issues develop then the parents may find themselves back in Court arguing over a fresh change of the child custody request.
The best way to co-parent after a trial is to put your differences behind you and move forward. This includes following the Court’s new order in regards to visitation times, support payments, etc. Even if you disagree with the Judge’s ruling the bottom line is that you must abide by it. It is also important to share information with the other parent regarding the child’s schooling, medical care, and behavior. If the child is having problems then it is important to not simply blame the other parent; you must determine the source of the problem and have a cordial conversation with the other parent on how to address the issue. The more you work with your counterpart then the better adjusted your child will be and the less likely you are to find yourself back in Court.
Unfortunately there are times when your counterpart may not be willing to effectively co-parent following a trial. Depending on the circumstances it may be possible to have them held in contempt of court if they are regularly violating the Judge’s rulings. If you are having issues with your ex and you believe they are violating a court order then it is important to consult with a lawyer to learn more about your options.
Our Orange County child custody attorneys regularly assist those who are going through a dispute with their ex. If you have questions about your situation then call our office today to speak with a lawyer. We also service Aliso Viejo, Anaheim, Buena Park, Costa Mesa, Dana Point, Fountain Valley, Fullerton, Garden Grove, Huntington Beach, Irvine, La Habra, Ladera Ranch, Laguna Beach, Laguna Hills, Laguna Niguel, Lake Forest, Mission Viejo, Newport Beach, Orange, Placentia, Rancho Santa Margarita, San Clemente, San Juan Capistrano, Santa Ana, Tustin, Westminster, and Yorba Linda.